Kathirvel Kalaiselvan

"கண் மூடினால் நீ! கண் திறந்தாலும் நீயே! படுக்கையில் படுத்தால் நீ! படுக்கையிலிருந்து எழுந்தாலும் நீயே! சாப்பிடும் போதும் நீ! துணிமணி அணிந்தாலும் நீயே! தண்ணீர் குடிக்கும் பாட்டிலில் நீ! டீ குடிக்கும் போதும் நீயே! காலில் செருப்பு அதுவும் நீ! கையில் கடிகாரம் அதுவும் நீயே! ஸ்கூட்டரை எடுத்தால் நீ! காரை பார்த்தாலும் நீயே! என் மூச்சும் நீ! என் உயிரும் நீயே!"

"He was one of the kindest soul I have ever known. In such a short time, he became so close to my heart. His love and care made me feel like his own daughter, and I was blessed to call him Dad. His time in my life was short, but his place in my heart is forever. Forever my Dad. 🤍"

"He is my bestest brother, I have ever seen an elder person like him. He is my idol for some reasons. I have learned from him a lot and still I'm following what he taught to me. I felt that he is still with me and teaching me everything. Miss you My bestest BROTHER."

"Kathir has played a subtle role in my life yet created a strong impact. Found this gem through his wife (my bestie) Bharathi. A great human, dedicated family man, kind hearted person and lots more to say. We lost the best, an irreplaceable best. Miss you forever :( -with lots of love ❤️"

"My soulmet buddy... Your kindness, your good heart, and the beautiful things you did for others will always be remembered. You left this world, but the goodness you shared will live on in our hearts forever. I miss u so much da machi.. 😭"

"Kathir means kindness. I think the one and only person on earth who never hurted anyone in his lifetime. Every year I used to send him a birthday wish, the reply I would get was "thankyou sis". Missing that this year. Praying for him and always in our memories"

"Deeply miss you, and the void you have left within us can never be filled. I am so proud of you and of everything you were to each and every one of us. You may no longer be with us, but you will forever be a part of who we are. Miss you more than words can ever express."

"He was not just my brother-in-law; he was my dear brother!! He truly cared for our well-being all along. Though he is not with us, he remains an inspiration to all of us and showed us how to live a selfless life !! He will live in our hearts forever as a super star 💫"

"I love you machan always being you with us"

"A Memory I Will Always Carry. I still remember how you would check on me, ask if everything was okay, and make sure I was doing fine. You were more like a friend, but somewhere along the way, you became more like a big brother to me. I miss you, brother. 🕊️❤️"

"I believe still he is with us - Kathir na used to call me every month once and check on how my parents are doing and my career. He is my role model, my mentor. The word he used to call me - dae thambi, love u na ♥️😥"

"Your Memories Live On ❤️ No one can replace your kindness, the way you always helped others, spent time with our family, and were always there for me. I miss you so much, Anna. ❤️"

"I don't have a word to say about him! My first buddy in the office and he is the first person came and spoke to me with smile on the first day (hi da machan). You are so special to me macha.. Miss you lot. Love yaaa.."

"கதிர் நீ எங்களை விட்டு பிரிந்து சென்றாலும் எப்போது உன் நினைவுகள் எங்களை விட்டு போவதில்லை. I miss you da"

"Today would have been your birthday, dear Anna ✨🥹 You were such a humble soul and a kind human being. Though you are no longer here, your memory lives on in our hearts. Forever missed, forever respected ❤️"

"On August 6, 2023, remembering him with gratitude, kindness and care he showed us that day. He will be deeply missed and remembered forever."

"Kathir anna, really miss u, may ur soul rest in peace 💐💐. U r good brother to rupa and also sakthi (me), such loving and humble brother. U will be remembered always in us anna 🥰🙏"

"My brother spoke so much about Kathir, and I have always had immense respect for him. He was a wonderful mentor and an even better guide for the youngsters. Kathir anna is deeply missed by everyone, and his memories will always remain with us."

"You were such a lovable person, always kind, friendly with everyone, understanding and ready to help. We shared such a beautiful bond as brother and sister. I will always cherish that bond. Nobody can ever take your place as my brother. You will always have a special place in my heart."

"A Student Who Became My Son - A Love That Time Can Never Erase. Some people enter our lives as students, but quietly become a part of our family and remain in our hearts forever. You were one such precious soul in my life. You were my student when you were in Classes 11 and 12. But somewhere along the way, the relationship between a teacher and a student became something much deeper. You were such a pampering, affectionate boy. You would come to my home, sit with me, talk to me, care for me and shower me with endless love and affection. Your presence brought a special happiness into my home. I have no children of my own, and perhaps God sent you into my life to fill a little of that emptiness. Without even realizing it, you occupied a place in my heart that was no different from that of my own child. Your sister, too, was always with you, and the memories of both of you coming to my home will remain precious to me forever. Even after you completed your higher studies and got married, you never forgot me. You were always concerned about my health, my life and my well-being. You would ask whether I was fine, whether I needed anything and whether you could help me. Whenever I faced a difficult or critical situation, you were always ready to stand beside me. That care meant more to me than I could ever put into words. I never imagined that one day I would have to speak about you in the past tense. When I heard that you were no more last April, my heart refused to accept it. Even today, there are moments when I feel that you will suddenly walk through my door, call me, smile at me and ask, "Are you okay, Ma'am?" How can someone who gave so much love simply disappear from our lives? Your memories are everywhere - in my home, in my thoughts, in my heart and in the countless little moments we shared. I remember your affection, your pampering, your concern and the way you always made me feel that I was never alone. I still cannot believe that you are gone. You were my student by destiny, but you became my son by love. The pain of losing you is something I cannot explain. Some tears are not just tears - they carry years of love, memories, gratitude and a thousand words that were never said. I wish I had known that the last moments we shared would become memories. I wish I had hugged you a little longer. I wish I had told you more often how special you were to me. You may no longer be here physically, but the love you gave me will never leave me. You filled a space in my heart that no one else could fill. You gave me the love and affection of a child, and for that, I will remain grateful to you for the rest of my life. Wherever you are, my dear child, I hope you know this: You were deeply loved. You are terribly missed. And you will never, ever be forgotten. Until we meet again, you will remain my beloved student, my precious child and a beautiful part of my life. Rest peacefully, my dear. Your Ma'am will carry your memories in her heart forever. 🥺💔"

"You may have left this world, but you will never leave our hearts. Your smile, your kindness, your laughter, and every beautiful moment we shared will forever remain a part of us. Time may pass, but the memories of you will never fade. You will always be deeply missed, lovingly remembered, and forever cherished. Rest peacefully, Dear brother. You will live in our hearts forever. ❤️"

"கதிர் பிறந்ததிலிருந்து எங்களோடு சிறிய வீட்டில் கூட்டுக் குடும்பமாக இருந்தவன். 3 வயது இருக்கும் போது ஞாயிறு மாலை காரில் வெளியே அழைத்துச் செல்வேன். அதுவே அவனுக்கு கார்களின் மேல் பற்று ஏற்பட்டிருக்கலாம். சென்னை வரும்போதெல்லாம் எங்களை வழியனுப்பும் வரை நல்ல முறையில் உச்சரிப்பான். அவனோட இழப்பு எனக்கும் ஒரு பெரிய இழப்பு. வீட்டில் ஒரு போட்டோவை வைத்து அடிக்கடி நினைத்து பார்க்கிறேன். நினைக்காத நாள் இல்லை. சாதாரன மக்கள் பார்க்கும் வாய்ப்பே அரிதான சென்னை கவர்னர் மாளிகைக்கு அழைத்துச் சென்றது மறக்கவே முடியாது."

"KB is not just my brother; he is my everything. I still remember what my mom used to say, "KB is God's gift to you". I once asked him, Why you are doing all these things for me? He simply said, 12 years ago, I went through the same situation you're going through now, so I can understand. Back then my friends supported me. Now I'm supporting you. One day you'll be in a position to support someone else. This flow should keep going. Whenever you are in a place where you can help someone, just do it, He said. Those words taught me that true kindness is not about expecting anything in return, it's about passing forward the support we once received. Just imagine how blessed we are to have had someone like KB in our lives. His love, kindness, and lessons will always live on through us. Missing you to the core KB, you will always be a part of us. 🖤🫂"

"Kathir - The Friend Who Became a Part of Us. The guy from Coimbatore… who made all of us fall in love with him. "The guy whom nobody hated. The guy who never spoke badly about anyone, not even someone he considered an enemy. The guy who carried kindness so naturally that you didn't have to search for it in him. Kathir was simply one of the best human beings we have ever known" And this is not just a story about how we lost a friend. This is a story about how a friend became family. How 14 years of friendship became a lifetime of memories. And how someone can leave this world physically, but still remain with us in almost every beautiful memory we have. It all started in 2012… Let me tell you how Kathir went from being a friend… to becoming someone very close to our heart. It was 2012. At that time, Murugan and I were very close, and we were part of an office trip to Bayneekadu. As usual, the two of us stuck together, roaming around, enjoying every moment and creating our own fun. Murugan is the kind of person who can make anyone laugh and forget the bad things in life for a while. If he is part of a gang, you can be sure that the gang is going to have a great time. During that trip, Murugan and I bought the same round-neck T-shirts, so we were literally walking around like twins. And there was Kathir. He was already a good friend of ours, but when he saw the two of us wearing matching T-shirts, he felt bad that we hadn't bought one for him. But that was Kathir - he didn't create a scene or get angry. He was still there with us, laughing, roaming around and enjoying the trip as though nothing had happened. Later that evening, we came back to the resort and sat together for a few drinks. As the evening went on and everyone became more relaxed, Kathir finally opened up. I still remember him talking to Murugan, Prem and me. He honestly told us that he had felt hurt. He thought he was close to us, and somewhere inside, he wondered, "If I am so close to you guys, how did you forget me when you bought those T-shirts?" It sounds like such a small thing today, but the way Kathir spoke about it is what stayed with us. There was no anger, no accusation and no harsh words. He simply expressed what he felt, but did it in a way that never hurt the people in front of him. That moment changed something. We realised what kind of person he truly was. And somehow, without us even knowing it at that moment, that was the day Kathir became one of the closest people to our hearts. It was 12th April 2012 - a date that quietly gave us a friendship that would go on to become one of the most beautiful parts of our lives. 12th April 2012. A date that gave us one of the most beautiful friendships of our lives. And we never imagined that exactly, 14 years later, on 12th April 2026, the same date would become a day we would never forget. The day Kathir left us physically. But strangely… the same date that gave us our friendship also became the date that reminded us how deeply that friendship had grown. 14 Years of Us. From that day, Kathir was simply part of us. There was no you and me - it was always us. We stood by each other through everything, professionally, personally and financially. And one thing about our friendship was special: there were no secrets between us. We knew each other's lives, our struggles, our happiness, our problems and all our crazy moments. Back when we were bachelors, almost every weekend meant meeting up - sometimes at his house, sometimes at mine. Sometimes we had a plan, but most of the time, we didn't need one. We just wanted to be together. Those 14 years cannot really be measured in years. They were measured in weekends, phone calls, late-night conversations, laughter, arguments that never lasted, helping each other, standing by each other when someone needed us, and countless ordinary days that became extraordinary simply because we were together. In some of the hardest days of my life, Kathir was there. During my marriage, when I was going through difficult situations, he stood beside me. He was someone who made you feel that you were never alone. Some people enter our lives and become friends. Some become family. Kathir became both. And Then Came the Gang… As time passed, our little circle became bigger. We created our own gangs, changed names along the way, added more people, but never lost the friendship we had built. Somehow, the bond kept growing. Our last, and probably our most memorable, gang name was MANJUMEL BOYS - Kathir, Murugan, Prem, Sathish, Elango, Dinesh, Muthu, Ravi, Ashok and me. What started as a small group of friends became something much bigger - a bond filled with laughter, memories, support and countless moments that we will carry with us forever. But Kathir didn't belong only to our gang. He was also part of Evergreen boys. And that's another thing about him. He somehow belonged everywhere. He could sit with one gang, then another, and everyone would welcome him. He was loved by everyone. And I can say this without hesitation: Kathir was probably the one guy in our entire circle whom nobody ever hated. Not because he tried to please everyone. Not because he was afraid to speak. But because he simply knew how to treat people. He never needed to put someone down to make himself look good. He never carried hatred. He never spoke with the intention of hurting someone. He just had a good heart. And people could feel it. Then life moved on. We got married, our lives changed, responsibilities grew, and our families became bigger. But our friendship never faded; instead, it grew even stronger. Our wives became friends, our children became part of our memories, and our gatherings were no longer just about a group of friends - they became family gatherings. We didn't just carry our friendship forward; we carried our families along with it. Looking back now, that is what makes those years so special. We don't just see a group of friends; we see families that grew together, shared happiness, celebrated moments, stood by each other, and became connected through the bond we created all those years ago. And then came a day we never imagined would come. Even now, somewhere inside, it still doesn't feel real. A part of our mind still thinks, "Kathir will call when he gets time." We still have that feeling. We still expect the phone to ring, and sometimes we still look at the phone without realising why. Then comes the thought our heart doesn't want to accept - he is never going to call again. Maybe that is the hardest part. The memories are still here, and our friendship is still here, but we know we cannot create new memories with him anymore. No new weekend together, no new trip, no new group photo, no new silly conversation, and no new call. But what we do have is something nobody can ever take away from us - 14 years of memories, laughter, friendship, love and countless moments that will stay with us for the rest of our lives. We may not be able to make new memories with Kathir, but we have enough beautiful memories of him to keep him close to us, always. நண்பா… There are some people whom we remember because we miss them. But there are some people whom we remember because they made our lives better. You are one of those people, Kathir. நண்பா… நீ இல்லாத இந்த நாளில், உன்னை இன்னும் அதிகமாக நினைக்கிறோம். நீ எங்களுடன் இல்லை என்றாலும், எங்கள் நினைவுகளிலும், நம் நட்பின் அழகான தருணங்களிலும் என்றும் எங்களுடன் தான் இருக்கிறாய். எவ்வளவு நாட்கள் கடந்தாலும், உன் நினைவும்… நம் நட்பும் என்றும் அழியாது. Maybe that is how we should remember you - not only with tears, but with the laughter you gave us; not only with sadness, but with all the happiness you brought into our lives. Not by asking, "Why did you leave?" but by saying, "Thank you for being with us for 14 beautiful years." April 12 Will Never Be Just a Date. For us, April 12th will always be special. It was the day our friendship became something deeper, and 14 years later, it became the day we had to say goodbye to you physically. But from now on, we want April 12th to be about you. Every year, we will come together, do the things you loved, sit together, eat together, laugh together, and talk about you. We will probably cry too, and then we will laugh again, because that is what you would have wanted. We will tell the same old stories, remember the same old jokes, and someone will definitely say something about you that makes the whole group laugh. And for a moment, it will feel like you are sitting right there with us. That is how we want to keep you alive - not just in photographs, but in the way we live our friendship. Kathir… I have never been someone who strongly believed in God, but somehow, when I think about you, I feel differently. If there is something above us, I believe you are there, watching us and taking care of us, maybe still silently making sure none of us goes too far in the wrong direction, and maybe still bringing us together just like you always did. You may not be able to call us anymore, join our next trip, or sit with us at our next gathering, but you are still a part of every one of us. You are in our stories, in our photographs, in our laughter, in our families, and most importantly, in our hearts. We may not be able to create new memories with you, but we have enough memories to last a lifetime. So don't worry about us, Kathir. We will take care of each other, just like we always did. And every time we meet, a part of you will be there with us. Because some friendships don't end when someone leaves; they simply become memories that live forever. You came into our lives as a friend. You became one of us. You became family. And now, you have become a memory that none of us will ever want to lose. We miss you. But more than missing you, we are grateful that we had you. 14 years. Countless memories. One beautiful friendship. And one unforgettable human being. Forever our Kathir. ❤️ With love, Prasanna & Manjumel Boys"